We found these wonderful tips on how to show gratitude from https://tinybuddha.com/
These tips are fantastic and should really help you with your week of Appreciation and Connection in your One Million Butterflies program.
Show Gratitude to People Who Love You
- Share a specific example of something they did for you and how it made a difference in your life.
- Do something little but thoughtful for them—like clean up after Thanksgiving dinner!
- Give a long, intimate hug; or if you know they don’t like hugs, stick out your hand for a handshake to cater to their preferences and make them smile.
- Tell them you’re there if they have anything they want to talk about—and let them know they have your full attention.
- Give them something of yours that you think they would enjoy, and let them know specifically why you want them to have it.
- Invite them to do something you know they’ve always wanted to do.
- Encourage them to try something you know they want to try, but haven’t yet because they’re scared.
- Offer to do something you know they don’t enjoy doing, like organizing their closet or mowing their lawn.
- Compliment them on a talent, skill, or strength that you admire.
- Look them straight in the eyes and say, “You make the world a better place.”
Show Gratitude to People Who Challenge You - Fully listen to what they have to say, instead of forming your rebuttal in your head and waiting to speak.
- Thank them for introducing you to a new way to look at things, even if you still don’t agree.
- Pinpoint something you admire about their commitment to their beliefs—even if you don’t hold them, as well.
- Resist the urge to tell them they’re wrong.
- Challenge them right back to be the best they can be, with love and positive intentions.
- If they inspired you to push outside your comfort zone, thank them for inspiring you to take a risk, and let them know how it paid off.
- Write a blog post about how they helped you see things differently and dedicate it to them.
- Use the lesson this person teaches you through your interactions, whether it’s patience, compassion, or courage.
- Introduce them to someone who may challenge them and help them grow, as they’ve done for you.
- Let them know how you appreciate when they challenge you in a loving, non-confrontational way—and if they don’t do that, be calm and kind when you ask them to do that going forward.
Show Gratitude to People Who Serve You - Give a larger tip than usual.
- If they have a tip jar, include a thoughtful note of appreciation along with your coins or bills.
- Smile when you order or enlist their assistance. Smiles are contagious, so give one away!
- If they serve you regularly, acknowledge something they always do well—like work efficiently or stay calm under pressure.
- Exhibit patience, even if you’re in a hurry.
- Let their superior know they do an outstanding job.
- Keep their workplace clean—for example, at a coffee shop, clean up after yourself at the sugar stand.
- Offer to get a coffee for them, if it’s someone working in or outside your home.
- If you have their contact information, send an email of appreciation—and let them know you just wanted to express your gratitude, so they don’t need to write back.
- Praise them in a review on Yelp and/or recommend them to people you know.
Show Gratitude to People Who Work with You - Write a hand-written thank you note, acknowledging things you value about them and their work.
- Offer to lighten their workload in some way if you are able.
- Bring back lunch for them if you know they’re working hard and likely haven’t had a chance to grab something.
- If you’re running a meeting, keep it short to show them you appreciate and respect their time.
- Ask them about their lives instead of always being all business. This doesn’t mean you need to pry into personal matters; it just means showing an interest in who they are as people.
- Be the calm, light voice in a stressful situation.
- Give them flowers to brighten their desk.
- Let their boss know how they’re doing a great job and contributing to the company.
- Listen fully if they’re having a difficult day, and recognize if they need space to figure things out on their own, not advice or help.
- Remember the little things can make a big difference!
Show Gratitude for Yourself - Make a list of ways you’ve impressed yourself lately.
- Treat yourself to something you enjoy, like a pedicure or a massage.
- If someone compliments you, thank them and let them know you’re proud of that skill, talent, or accomplishment.
- Compliment yourself—say it while looking in the mirror, write it in a journal, or jot it on a sticky note and put it on your refrigerator.
- Give yourself time to enjoy a passion you’re sometimes too busy to fit in.
- Take an inventory of all the good things you’ve done for other people and the world.
- Write yourself a love letter. Seriously, start with “Dear Lori” (but insert your own name) and describe all the things you admire about yourself.
- Let go of any conditions you have for being kind to yourself—meaning you appreciate even if you didn’t accomplish or do anything specific.
- Schedule a date with yourself—an afternoon or evening that’s all about you.
- Share the beauty that is you with the people around you, knowing they’re fortunate to have you in their lives.